Monday, February 16, 2009

Go Away...Please Don't...

Why couples fight...why they get upset everyday or every alternate day??? Some get upset every 30 minutes as well!!! They go on a date after a fight, may be that helps them to get back to normalcy, atleast they believe so. And they again fight after coming from a date as well. They fight in the college, in the canteen, in front of the cake shop, at night after talking over 4 hours, inside the local train(yes, they still have energy left to start a fight inside Mumbai locals), in front of friends, over chat and in many such weird places and situations that will amuse you, me and everybody.

Now let's spend 120 seconds on the reasons for these fights. Sometimes the boyfriend throws the girl's toothbrush...she says that his mother should not comment that she looks fatty on photographs...he says she does not picks his calls in time...she says he does not give her attention while talking to her...he says XYZ is becoming a friend of hers too fast...she says he has got too many girls in his Orkut friend list...he says that why she wants to have curtains of her aunt's choice after marriage...she says he can never understand her...he says that she analyses him just too much and sometimes he gets confused who exactly she is...she says who called him at midnight yesterday...he says that he bought movie tickets & her male colleague commented it's a flop movie...she discusses her problems with another guy...she says he is obsessive....he says she loves him too much, but not practical...she says she does not know why she loves him...he says he can never love her as much as she does, but that is what the problem...she says that he hates chocolate flavour ice cream...he says she expresses herself too much in the public...she says he does not express himself or his feelings...so on & on & on....to be precise I would say these are only 5% examples...so you can guess now.... Precisely, in the first few years both fight for reasons that includes them, next few years they fight for reasons that affects both, but not necessarily includes both of them and then what happens is you both run out of reasons to fight for. Then both fight for reasons that includes third parties...such as another guy, one more girl or for that matter each other's friends.

They fight every now and then...they reconcile...and 9 out of 10 times they do not find or try to find a solution which may help them not fight on that particular issue. But why? Because when they see each other in the eyes, they just find one thing...love. And after a day or two they start again on the same issue, the magnitude of fight may go bigger...again reconcile...Again solution is kept inside the carpet...love comes back to air again...everything seems to be beautiful again.

I simply hate these fights...these couples...and I hate why they do not find a solution...and they become so blind...When I analyse these instances I laugh.I mean why they even fight when they accepted each other unconditionally. Why they find so many reasons to fight for? Why outsiders become a reason to fight for? Really irritating...really they are...so stupid...so silly...I hate them...and...and..I miss...
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I miss these fights...I miss that someone with whom I can fight...These fights, when analysed, seems so disgusting that you can only laugh. But when you are in love you do not analyse, you love...you care and you forgive...you forget...and you fight again. That's the beauty of love, the power of love. You do not need a solution at all, even when it is most necessary. This heart is such a stupid place that sees nothing except love. 

Miss these moments...miss the love...miss those silly reasons...miss those days...miss that  someone...and those fights...

12 comments:

yogini said...

Hey subhajit...Grt research...
I guess U've learned from your past experiences..

Subhajit said...

hmm...It's more of observing people around me than my own experience...
and this post is not at all based on me....just an abstract...

nivedita said...

hii... u said dis post ws nt based on u... bt sumwhre i felt ur feelings wre deep inside dis post(mite b m wrong)..
a gud 1 indeed.. definitely can learn sumthng frm dis if sum 1 wants..

souvagya said...

Interesting subject to discuss. What Subhajit u like to conclude “Real taste of love is within fight( I prefer to say Argument than Fight). Forget abt couples, there is intense love between Parents & Children, among brothers & sisters, among friends, among grand paa & grand children and many more family relation. Interesting to notice u will find no fights or lesser no of arguments in all these cases. Why???


U will find arguments among couples (before marriage & after marriage also). Its because u chose this relationship, u like to prove ur points always. One statistical data I like to give you arguments % after marriage is more in Love marriage than in arrangement marriage. When u think ur the responsible person for the consequence u like to impose ur views on her/him and for that fight starts.

Subhajit said...

@ Souvagya: What I infer from your comment is that why I only have focussed on couples??? Well, I just took their example, argument or fight can take place between any two persons.

And as far as your (so-called) statistical data on the % of argument is concerned I can give more 1000 examples contradicting your data. I hope we can have a better insight when I will post something on marriages.

@ Nivi & Yogini: Thanks for your comments...and Nivi welcome to my blog. Hope to see you more here.

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Sanat said...

Well, one can connect to the examples that you have given. But my question is that you should have given some ways how to find solution to these never-ending fights/arguments between couples?

I know you are not Doctor-Love...but could have given a try ;)...wat say?

vijeya said...

Hey Subhajit SIR......cant help detaching that suffix from your name..hheehh !!jokes apart ...although you mentioned that this piece is not based on your life yet i take that with pinch of salt ..the flow was fine but what i liked most were the last two concluding paragraphs...they mustered up the thoughts of your mind in a nutshell. In short it is this last bit that reflect the real bit ...readers please read in between the lines !!

bulbul said...

hey....fr sure these are ur experiences......either hw cn u write truth so...finely!!:)

Subhajit said...

@ Sanat: Dude, if I could have all the solutions then my life would have been different. But, on a serious note the solution lies in the arguments itself, it's upto both of them to find it out & sort.

@ Vijeya: What should I say? U keep on reading between the lines.

@ Bulbul: First of all welcome to my blog, see it has touch of me & but not completely :)

Lincey said...

Please don't u dare to say that you have not written from your own experiences. I just read the comments and everybody is also saying the same. All the examples may not be of your own but majority of them.

Anyways nice observations and great job putting them in words so that one can think over it ;)

Subhajit said...

Thanks Ms. Das for your dhamki. And you toh plz don't think anything.