Tuesday, August 25, 2009

We Have Changed :(

Sometime during last month I had a visit to Inorbit, Vashi and was sitting in the food court with 2 of my friends. There was an artificial children playground there. The number was increasing inside it as it was a weekend. In front me many new cute little angels went inside it and got lost with each other. It really is surprising to know that how in this world, and in today’s time there are still some moments which you see live and wish it would be the exact scenario in the entire world. None of them knew each other; they never even met each other before. But mixed and played as if they know each other for years and as if this is the one last time they are meeting. These days our siblings don’t believe in each other! Friends deceit, our relatives don’t trust us. Our parents don’t believe on us. May be we ourselves don’t believe on our own capabilities. Where is that trust which one can see in those tiny eyes, where is the blind faith which sparkles in those eyes? For those 15 minutes they forget the world and be with each other. How many moments are we spending like that today in our lives? One can give an excuse that time does not allow him/her, but is it that difficult to switch off your mind for 10 minutes. May be we can’t, we can’t live without our cell phones for 5 minutes, switching off mind is too much to ask for.

Now the second and most disturbing thought. I found a mother who came with her daughter (around 6 years old) and sent her to that playground after her repeated request. She was quite sophisticated and well mannered. But the lady is one of a kind guys, she did not even have the interest to go the counter to pay for her daughter. She gave her a 50 rupee note and asked her to go alone and pay, the cutie was apprehensive but went ahead. She paid herself and went inside. Her busy mother went to get some Chinese stuff to eat. While the cutipie lost herself with other children, she didn’t forget her Mumma, kept on calling her to watch how much she was enjoying. To my utter disappointment, she was too damn busy in eating and not even listening her daughter once, for God’s sake, once. She was sitting just 7 feet away from her. The little finally realised it is of no use to call her as she and found her mates inside more close to her heart. I could not understand why do we earn so much, why do we have children & why do we even commit to responsibilities which we can’t complete??? If we can’t be with our own children for 10 minutes when they really need us or want us to be with them, then it is a shame. It really is. I hope we all understand the importance of these delicate relationships one day. Some day...

6 comments:

Rishal Gadakh said...

Hi Subhajit
Good Article

This reminds me of something. Infact a story, a story that my dad said me once in my childhood days, that I completely forgot but just flashed back as i was reflecting on your article. It goes something like this

In a restaurant there was a child about say 5-6 yrs of age and was causing a lot of trouble to everyone. he would cause problem and if someone stared with anger or something like that will come back to his mother and again start off.
A woman became impatient seeing this and stood up and told this mother of the child whay dont you control your child it is causing so much nussiance here and she had almost started a fight with her.
To this the woman replied "I am not the mother of the child I am just her moms friend which had met with an accident outside this hotel and the ambulance is trying to take her to hospital i am just trying to see that the child is occupied so that it doesnt miss her mom and call for it because i cant give that to her"

Well what this talks about is the perception probably that mother is occupied with something which is quite a lot disturbing or probably she loves her child but cant express or probably ......a hundred and ten reasons. as far as child goes there is this old saying u see "You can find nintey nine reason to hate a child but just one reason to love him that its a child and thats enough to love him"

Regards,
Rishal Gadakh

Chiranjiit said...

Nice observation bro..and without expanding much on this i feel such types of women should become an extinct species in this beautiful world.I just pray god & keep my fingers crossed that at the least they keep way away from my and my dear ones life....even your life. God save those women who dont know how to respect HIS angels."Women" i believe are epitome of love,affection & compassion..how can a woman that to a mother behave in such a heartless manner?

rakhi said...

hey subbs....
this is really a great 1...

however now a days every 1 has become money minded...
i personally belive that a mom should be a housewife....so that she can spend her entire time in upbringing her child....however with the changing world (status) and with the inflation ladies r working and missing out the small moments which they could have enjoyed with their children...

childrens are the most beautiful creation of this world.... and ma humble request to all the MOTHERS....dont miss out the opportunity just for STATUS.....

nivedita said...

1st of all subbs..a great observation n b'ful narration... ur thoughts reflect hw gud u can b at parenting..
gud luck !!

it reali is disheartening to read dat a mother can do such a thing...
it's only mom who can luv u unconditionally n still she behaved in such a way.... mite b it is changing scenario or her consciousness wich made her so, bt whatsoever, its reali nt buyable..

@rakhi...i truly agree dt mothers shud reali nt miss d tiny precious moments of her child bt at d same time working mothers dnt work for status...i believe evry child inculcates sum behavior or try to be like her/his mother n a working mother who manages personal n professional life reali well is d best example for her child.... newz at d end of d day its d way we al perceive things... bt ofcourse, i respect ur thuts..

Lincey said...

First of all, outstanding observation from you. I know you observe a lot. But never knew u get so much into it. Be careful, if somebody finds you getting so much into their lives, then you will be gone.

Coming back to the post, I would say that however busy we are in our lives, we must take out ample amount of time for our children...specially for the daughter (selfish me!).

Anyways, you still want a daughter or any change in plans ;-) heheheh

Sanat said...

Dude, it depends upon person to person. Neither all the parents in metros are the same nor all the parents in other cities are pretty careful. It just shows a disturbing mentality that parents are developing over the period of time.

Nice thoughts...All set to be the ideal Dad... Give us demo classes ;)