Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Yeh Baarish. Woh Ummeed.

Main shukra-guzaar hoon unn lamhon kaa, jinmein maine kuch aisa paaya, jo likh sakaa. Zehen mein aksar bahut kuch likhte rehta hoon, din-raat, subeh-shaam, aate-jatey, uthate-baithtey, har pal har dum, bas  jab bhi mauka mil jaaye. Par record kar nahin paaya, lekin jab bhi samay mila hai, iss blog ke madhyam se kuch kaha hai.  Likhne mein ek alag hi mazaa hai, jo shayad main kabhi bayaan na kar paoon, lekin itna kehna lazmi zaroor hoga ki yeh bada sukoon deta hai. Mujhko, meri rooh ko! Lambe-lambe din kaate hain, raatein bhi bahut si aur bahut tarah ki dekhi hain, jinmein kal ki koi assurance nahi thi. Bhagwan ko toh dekha nahin kabhi, haan par Maa-Baap hain, jinko uski darza deta hoon, aur likhta hoon. Khushi mein likhta hoon, akelepan mein kuch zyade hi khayaal panap-tey hain, lekin gham ki shyahi ka toh koi jawaab hi nahin, bahut kaam aayi yeh mere likhney mein.

Likhna mazboori hai... Aur fitrat bhi!

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Mumbai mein monsoon ko sehna ek achievement hi hai, aap maane ya na maane… Har gad.dhe ka hisaab rakhte-rakhte umra beet jaayegi, lekin yeh shehar kabhi nahi ruktaa, ruk hi nahi paata… Chand panktiyan, ussi shehar ke naam:

Is baar ki baarish kuch alag hai,
Boondein toh pehchaan loon,

Aisa hi ashkon se bhiga kuch khat, thodi yaadein,
Kahin tumne kahin dekha hai!

Baarish aate hi iss shehar ko kuch ho jaata hai,
Subah ghar se nikle hi nahin, toh shaam ki chinta ho jaati hai,
Baarish shuru hone se pehle hi, ussey bachne ki  taiyaari ho jaati hai,
Lekin kahan suntee hai kisiki, yeh baarish.

‘Asha’ ek badaa hi zaalim shabd hai, logon ne bahut kuch khoya iske naam par... Lekin chhod pana bada mushkil hai, Bhagwan ki tarah hai, dikhta nahi, par har jagah hai. Log toh yehi kehte hain, accept karne mein bhalaa harz kya hai…

Jaane se pehle koi vaada ya kasam nahi khaai  thi humne,
Khush hoon us baat par, ki 'regressive' nahi the hum,
Lekin jab jab tumhe dhoondhtaa hoon un andheron mein,
Khaali haath hi naseeb hota hai,
Andhera pasand hai mujhe, chhod do mujhe mere makhmali andheron mein,

Meri khamoshi ka sur lagati phirti hogi,
Ummeed tha dono saath kuch gun-gunaenge,
Saath kuch kadam aage lenge, kuch nazmon par guftagoo karenge,
Lekin kaun iss zindagi ke aapa-dhapi mein yeh sab karega,
Kahin 'regressive' ka thappa na laga do tum.

Kehte hain, ummeed par duniya kayam hai…


(Sincere thanks to Guru for helping me out with the editing thanks to my great command over the language)

Monday, July 15, 2013

Let's Begin from Home

Good work aimed at development and upliftment of people in general should not only be appreciated, but also must stand as an example for others to follow suit. We find it very easy to blame the system for every apathy we face in our everyday life. Finding a scapegoat for everything has become a way of our life. And it is happening because of the way our entire society is functioning. And gradually, we all are turning into an 'escapist'. 

While fighting hard not to fall into the trap of being an 'escapist', I keep searching for ways to do my bit in whatever little way possible. I came across a website of a small village, yes a full-fledged website, and it was so informative and inspiring. I went to explore further about their journey on development and how inclusive it is for them. There are various programs running and majority of them are aimed at sanitation and hygiene. Hygiene has always been a primary area of concern in Indian villages. They, today, have achieved a level where each house has proper sanitation standards. Apart from their own devised programs, they also have the Govt.-run programs (NREGA etc) successfully. These are the kind of model-villages who can be a benchmark for others to follow. With the level of corruption and ineptness of the governments over the years, the major onus lies with the villagers to take it upon themselves to change the things they want to see. 

Here is the link of a better world in a smaller place.

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

'Lessons' I Call 'Life'

When it rains, it does not decide where to go. It does not belong to anyone, yet it is for everyone. Sometimes the sheer noise of the raindrops make you go blank. All you hear is that sound. Nothing distracts you, you start concentrating amidst the noise. These are facts of nature we must understand, for they don’t come with sponsored posts on social networks. The number of events, people and situations around us are enough to divert our attention, or are they? The truth, if we start exploring, will come out simple: if we like what we are doing, nothing can distract us. I never realized the umpteen number of times my father told me the same thing; assuming that how in the world it is possible to concentrate with Tendulkar playing those signature straight drives, Mom cooking those delicious fries, Mr. Vajpayee giving those speeches, those landline ringing during those odd-hours, friends calling for evening Cricket match with the life on stake.

With each year, I realized how critical it is to inculcate attributes I never thought of: 

1. Unlearn
2. Deserve
3. Prioritize


Unlearning, for me, came into existence at a stage when I realized that there is a knowledge overload from all sides. I saw people replicating the same stuff over and over again, this gives them some unknown pleasure. You will find professors fondly telling you concepts they themselves cannot apply and telling you stories they cannot relate to. And they do it for infinite times and then you come across many people preaching you the same things with additional layers. All these makes you either think that you know a lot of facts or you start questioning their validity. The second reason, which brings the 'unlearn' factor into existence is the "Life Lessons" you are taught over the years you grow up. You are told many such practices which are not only vague but carry no value in today's scenario. I can count at least 15 such stories/practices/myths which you really need to unlearn, but few I want to quote:

- Working hard leads us to success: No one, I repeat no one, has defined what 'hard-work' stands for. For example, I have seen employees sitting for 12 hours a day and 7 days a week in office giving less output than people sitting lesser number of hours. But the catalyst for the 'so-called' hard-workers is their bosses who nod their head for a good hike at the end of the year keeping in mind the hours they spent in office. The same goes for the CGPA/percentage we score in our academics. A 1% less here or there and that is the end of the world for the parents. (more on the academics some other day)

- It matters so very much what people think of me: Throughout my growing years, my parents were always concerned about what others kids are doing and what should we achieve. Our achievements were decided keeping others as benchmark. It happened with me, till I completed my 12th and post the 12th results, my father "finally" asked me what I want to do. Then things changed, I was an average student before that and remained the same after. But what changed is, he became more content and more satisfied with my progress. He stopped thinking what others are saying, as I always told him that "I will not disappoint you". 

- It is bloody important to stay happy: After a great deal of self-experience, I realized that being happy is a state of mind. The onus lies with you how you want to feel. There will
definitely be situations that will be more adverse than you can even think of and the great self-help-gurus will tell you take it lightly or keep calm to infinity or not to break down under any circumstances. But it is quite "normal" to feel bad, be upset and even a temporary break down. It really is normal and for all my male friends there's nothing like "men don't cry" theory. For I know we all break down numerous times for many reasons. But having said this, we can not stay in the state of mourning for eternity, for every phase shall pass and the only fact is we need to move on. Happiness is multiplied when shared and he who loves, stays happy.


Deserve is a verb that means 'have or show qualities worthy of rewards or punishment'. It also differentiates between people who are practically ambitious from those who expect things which does not even exist. It also separates people with 'half-knowledge' from people who think before they speak. There is this famous but simple phrase which I believe blindly, and it holds true in every phase of our lives, it says: Deserve Before You Desire. Being in a profession that primarily revolves around 'people issues', I have uncountable number of instances where the employees in any organization expect more than they need, more than that is justified, more than they deserve.



- Earn It : Before I could understand all these in life, I too was desiring things before reaching a certain age or time. Then I learned this critical lesson from my father, who always ensured that I have to 'earn' everything that I 'desire'. All these demands ranged from chocolates to bicycle to video games. I never got anything the day I asked for and it never ever made me happy. I always used to tell him that he was the harshest and a heartless father. Each year passing by, I used to get something I wished a year back or may be some time before that. I felt wonderful with every new thing being given to me and but complaint against him remained the same. The biggest realization happened, when I started working; I started valuing a lot of things around. I always valued people, for I knew they are the biggest assets to any family, society and organization. Today, as I write this, I can only think and thank my father for making me earn everything I wished for which turned into valuing each of them. More often than not, when we get things without working for it, we start taking it for granted, we often do not 'value' it.


- Being Content : These days switching jobs is just another 'norm'. Changing a mobile handset is an 'in' thing. And 'breaking news' has actually become a trend. There is no end to our expectations. Majority of that is materialistic. Observing my father through all these years makes me understand one thing which I believe is very crucial to become a better 
human being: be content. I know I have not even distantly close to the level of 'contentment' he has in his life, but I believe it's time I should learn that. He has lived a life that has got every aspect of seriousness and his motto was simple: time takes no holiday. Being content become very difficult thanks to family, society, peer pressure and what not. But the day you start telling yourself that you are fine with what you have, believe me that would be the beginning of so many happy days to come.


Prioritizing does not come naturally to everyone, it ain't that easy as well. Some just could not do it, some start and then could not carry it forward and some 'act' as if they are really into it. Prioritizing often becomes a practice if we do all those little things in a day in a more organized way. Organizing your day, your month, your tasks are one part, but the most critical is doing the same with your 'life'.

My priorities changed as I grew up. There are multiple phases that kept me changing my priorities, some worked, some did not. When I was into my 12th, I saw this extraordinarily beautiful young girl, and all I did during the phase that followed is 'think' about her. For me the priority was 'courtship' at a time when studying should have taken the front seat. I made my family shift base just because I could be near her; sounds so hilarious today and so hazardous if things would have gone wrong. Then during my graduation, while I was neck deep in to William Shakespeare, R.K. Narayan & William Wordsworth, I thought my priority is to get a job as soon as possible. Doing management seemed the most valid idea as Mr. Shakespeare would have taken me to some distant college with a meagre pay. When I spent 23 years at home, Mom's food was just alright for me and I always teased her each time we ordered food from outside. 

Today when I look back, I realize I could have just weighed every situation instead of taking decisions for those instant priorities. Be it my 'courtship' or 'management degree'. And yes, as far as Mom's cooking is concerned, only I knew how delicious it was when I started staying in a hostel and realized I can't even have it once in a month. Even my tears of missing home could not feed me that time.

If we get on to some more worldly affairs, we will see how our priorities today have become so very materialistic. Staying in a bigger 'city', having a 'house' of your own, a 'vehicle' that has to match your apartment's other ones rather than your requirement, a 'CTC' that should be well bargained in the market, mugging that pink newspaper just because the person sitting next to you is reading it, calling people friends just because they will come handy for you in future, working for a brand even if you know the profile is something that will never excite you... the list will be endless. I will never argue with those who will say each of these priorities are based on leading a good and secured lifestyle, but my only thought is 'at what cost'!


No lessons will be enough to protect you from an imminent hazard if you are never prepared to 'unlearn'. There will be no substance to validate your dreams if you do not 'deserve' them. 'Priorities' can never be set at the expense of wrong choices which later determine our actions.

Monday, July 1, 2013

My Dateless Diary : 3

A hectic month-end at office. A lonely Saturday night. A no-agenda-Sunday. I am happy that I am not lost. And people still count on me. I know that the first 3 days of the coming week are going to be insane at office. The rent is due for an increase, the broker will swing into action to suck my money. I like schedules in life, I like things organized. I love to see my calendar filled with things to do, things to look forward to and etc etc. I hate blank people, blank sheets, blank calendar, blank account balance, blank minds, blank theatres, blank tables and etc etc.

Now in between all these, I ask myself - how important it is to have agendas for everything! How much required are the stuffed calendars!! How much our lives will change with the things I hate being 'blank'!!!